When I was 15, I met a boy on the internet called Damon. He was from South Dakota and our time zones were all wrong. But sometimes Damon and I would meet online – I would stay up late and he would be up early and we would talk. One time he even stayed online with me for hours because I’d said I’d never watched the sun rise.
He and I never met in real life. We had set a date, to meet on July 25, 2008, under Big Ben. That never happened. We still talk online sometimes and you can tell we’ve both grown up. I share a house with my wonderful boyfriend, and he has a beautiful girlfriend who he always talks highly of.
But something I will always be thankful for is that time Damon recommended all those films. I spent a summer, when I was 15, watching films Damon recommended. Films whose blurbs I had never even bothered to read at the video rental shop before. Over one summer I watched films like Pulp Fiction, A Clockwork Orange, Pi, Requiem for a Dream, The Deer Hunter, 2001: A Space Odyssey, City of God, Fight Club, Donnie Darko, Trainspotting and Se7en.
These films remain some of my favourite even today, and watching them at such a young age, essentially forfeiting the teenage films other kids my age were watching, meant the bar was raised pretty high for any other films I would watch as an adult.
I still love films, but very few move me in the way that those films did. There’s Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Shortbus, Paris Je t’Aime, 10 Things I Hate About You, American Beauty, Ghost World, The Big Lebowski, Juno, Garden State, Moulin Rouge! and a few others. Still, it’s rare that I watch a film which really speaks to me, which is disappointing after a summer of nothing but good films all those years ago.
Just now, however, Andrew and I watched 500 Days of Summer. Good films always take me back to that summer, eight years ago, in my parents’ basement. When I would get online and report back to Damon that I loved what I’d just watched and ask whether he could please recommend another one.
Putting aside the fact that I adore both Joseph Gordon Levitt and Zooey Deschanel (I want to be her), the film was something special. It has a magnificent soundtrack – The Smiths, Regina Spektor, Feist, Simon and Garfunkel. The basic premise of the film is this: Boy meets girl. Boy falls in love; girl doesn’t. How simple and how intricate.
It’s got such a great script and beautiful photography. The director is, and rightly so, fascinated by the way that Zooey’s eyes reflect the light at sunrise, at sunset, at noon. By the lines in Joseph’s face and how his eyes crinkle when he smiles.
I love the way it’s presented – I love that it isn’t chronological. I like the way the ending isn’t happy – it’s just life. It’s what happens. The Break Up tried to do this in a very Hollywood way. But this film is not Hollywoodised and this is what I love about it.
I like films like this one, like Juno, like Garden State, that make me happy to be just a little different. To be programmed just a little bit differently to the majority of people. To prefer The Smiths to Lady Gaga.
I don’t know why but before I met Andrew, films about love didn’t really do much for me. I guess I was cynical. Don’t get me wrong, this film didn’t make me gush or anything like that. But I love the way it presented love and the way it’s so similar to what I see in my head when I picture my life with Andrew – embraces, Moleskine notebooks and indie songs.
