Body positive

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These days, being fattist (or size-ist) is an acceptable form of prejudice. It’s frowned upon to make racist comments; you can’t tell a woman her place is in the kitchen; most people even know that you can’t ‘catch’ gayness just by being friends with gay people. However, it’s still perfectly acceptable to judge a person based on their size. No, let me correct myself – some people think it’s their duty as a citizen of the world to, if they happen to see a fat person, ask them to lose weight.

God forbid you’re fat and you’re eating lunch. Because of course we all know that if you’re fat, you should never eat again – don’t we? And it’s certainly better to be skinny, at whatever cost. Anything beats being a fat pig stuffing your face, right?

Because we all know that all fat people are lazy pigs who do nothing but eat all day and it’s their own damn fault that they’re so fat.

Er – wrong. While I enjoy eating ice-cream as much as the next person, I try to eat five fruits and vegetables a day, I drink over 2 litres of water a day, limit my salt and sugar intake, eat a portion of protein with every meal, have baked potatoes instead of chips when I can, have brown bread and pasta when I can, snack on nuts instead of packets and try to keep myself active. And yet I am a plus-sized lady.

After years of trying to lose weight, I realised I just was never going to be skinny. So I learned to like the way I looked – I liked the way I looked when I lost 8kg because of tummy problems; I tried to like the way I looked when I gained 10 because of the medication I was on. Life’s too short to worry about waistlines and numbers. My body may not be the world’s idea of an ideal body, but it’s my body and so it’s perfect. And as long as I’m healthy and happy and have friends and family who support me, I’m good.

What does piss me off, though, is the serious shortage of plus-size-friendly clothes shops there are – particularly in Malta. The US has these great shops like Torrid, Lane Bryant and Avenue, that cater for curvy women. We have a very pared-down version of Evans. Evans in the UK is nice – it’s big and well-stocked. Here… well, not so much.

And yes we have shops like Dorothy Perkins and New Look and Next, who carry clothes up to a size 18 or 20 – but the cut of a lot of their clothes just does not flatter plump bellies, wide hips or fleshy thighs.

But there are some people who are working to change this, and Sarah is one of them. She maintains Pasazz and Plus Sizes Malta – two great resources if you’re a plus-sized girl on the rock.

Meanwhile, here are some sexy curvy ladies for you to drool over :)

Sara Ramirez

Crystal Renn

Mae West

Queen Latifah

  • Margaret
    July 17, 2010

    Hi, I just randomly found your blog and read a selection of posts and of course you don’t know me, but I felt compelled to tell you that I enjoy reading many blogs, but yours has the most beautiful design I’ve seen so far! – it gives me the sensation of reading a beautifully crafted book. (I’m a bookworm too and studied English at University, rather too many years ago :-). Your zest for life is inspirational too.

    • admin
      July 17, 2010

      Hi Margaret,
      Thank you for your lovely comment! I got the design from here
      I downloaded it for that reason – it feels less like an online diary and more like a journal =)

      So glad you stumbled upon my blog. Also good to have another English graduate here!

  • clare
    July 19, 2010

    Good for you for writing this. And so well written and heartfelt too. I love the paragraph where you wrote about loving yourself. I wish I could give you a pat on the back for every word in that paragraph :)

    You are such a beautiful person, you don’t deserve to be made to feel any less than that. Sara Ramirez and Queen Latifah especially, out of the ladies you chose, are two favourites of mine. They glow, as do you.

  • Sarah
    July 19, 2010

    Great post :) many thanks for the mention. It is really refreshing to see someone be positive about their body and appreciate who they are. (I know so many people who seriously do not, and it is so sad). We really have to learn how to celebrate who we are now at the present time, instead of beating ourselves up about what we could look like!

  • A
    July 20, 2010

    It’s not just fat people who get hated on either. Skinny people get told they are not ‘real women’ because ‘a real woman has curves’. Many people feel the need to tell skinny girls to ‘eat something’, which in my eyes is equal to telling a fat person to not eat. You can never please everyone, and everyone will be judged, no matter what their weight is. I don’t think ‘fattist’ is an appropriate word, I think ‘sizeist’ is, because it’s not just fat people who get hated on. I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum, a size 6 and a size 16, and people are equally nasty. I guess for some, it’s a hobby.

    • admin
      July 20, 2010

      I’ve never been skinny – but yes I am sure skinny girls get nasty comments too. How terrible :(

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